S.H.A.R.E., Inc. Receives Grant for General Operating

Fort Morgan, Colorado – S.H.A.R.E., Inc. announced October 12 that it has received a $25,000 Daniels Fund grant to support its domestic violence services in Morgan County. S.H.A.R.E., Inc., the Morgan County domestic violence agency, provides 24 hour crisis intervention, emergency shelter, food, transportation, and individual and group advocacy to victims of domestic violence and their children in our area.

In addition to the above services, they assist victims with safety planning, protection orders, victim compensation applications, and parenting plans, as well as courtroom accompaniment upon request.

“This grant will enable our program to continue vital emergency services, and will enhance our outreach efforts to provide advocacy and education to families who are experiencing violence in their homes,” said Jan Schiller, Executive Director.

The Daniels Fund, established by cable television pioneer Bill Daniels, is a private charitable foundation dedicated to making life better for the people of Colorado, New Mexico, Utah, and Wyoming through its grants program, scholarship program, and ethics initiative. Visit DanielsFund.org to learn more.
For more information about S.H.A.R.E., Inc., please call (970) 867-4444 or visit www.sharemorgancounty.org.

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Domestic Violence Awareness Month

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and S.H.A.R.E., Inc.’s 35th Anniversary.

cropped-shareoffice-blog-banner.jpgOctober is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and at S.H.A.R.E., Inc. we are marking the 35th Anniversary of providing confidential services to victims of domestic violence in Morgan County.

Our history. The initial goal of the group that founded S.H.A.R.E., Inc., was finding a way to help two populations – recovering alcoholics, and battered women, under the name Safe Homes And Rehabilitative Environments (S.H.A.R.E., Inc.). As the organization was formed the group realized that it was not going to be possible to help both populations in one facility, and they decided to focus on helping battered women and their children.

In 1981, S.H.A.R.E., Inc. was officially founded as a nonprofit, community-based 501(c)(3) organization and initial start-up work was done by volunteers – to develop policies and procedures, recruit and train volunteer advocates, and secure funding. Volunteers were trained with a curriculum presented through a local community college.

The next step was implementing a network of safe homes, with trained volunteers opening their homes to victims and their children while administrative work was done around kitchen tables.

The first night in the new shelter. Once funding was secured, the organization was able to rent a house which became the administrative offices and shelter. The first night we had the key to the house, we took a crisis call from a woman with five children. This family desperately needed a safe place to escape the abuse in their home. The new facility had not been furnished yet, or the kitchen stocked, but we rounded up sleeping bags, pillows, and blankets, gathered some of our pots and pans, dishes and groceries, and the family slept securely that night in a safe place. Local women’s groups and other individuals helped furnish and stock the house and office.

Enhancing facilities and services. As new sources of funding became available through government grants, private foundations and local charities and fundraisers, we moved from an all-volunteer to full-time paid staff supplemented by a team of volunteers. Eventually, we were able to put on an addition to the shelter facility, and later we acquired a second building where the outreach client offices and administration are located, which increased the capacity at the shelter.

We are one of just two full service – with safe house facility  – community-based domestic violence programs in Northeast Colorado. We provide a comprehensive range of services tailored to individual needs, beginning with crisis intervention – with 24/7 access – to ongoing individual and group support in English and Spanish. We provide Teen Dating Violence Prevention curriculum in local schools and do community education and training.








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September 21, 2016 · 2:18 pm

12 Facts That Show How Guns Make Domestic Violence Even Deadlier

A statistical guide to firearms, intimate partner abuse, and the children, parents, and police who become victims, too.

by Kerry Shaw August 22, 2016

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This is not just another “guns and domestic violence” article – it is full of statistical information that makes it crystal clear how guns make domestic violence lethal to intimate partners, children, family members, friends, law enforcement, and even bystanders. Please read. – S.H.A.R.E., Inc.

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Volunteer Advocate Training Begins September 10

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August 16, 2016 · 3:44 pm

The Importance of Using Accountable Language

The Importance of Using Accountable Language

by Phyllis B. Frank and Barry Goldstein

This article was conceived because of the frequency with which leaders of our movement and presenters at conferences use unaccountable language in our presentations and proposals, even as they deeply care about ending men’s violence against women and have devoted their lives to helping women partnered with abusive men.

Like all tools of oppression, unaccountable language is conditioned into our psyches, taught and learned as appropriate vocabulary and in socially acceptable sentence structure. Thus, unaccountable language is part of everyday parlance of people acting in complete good faith in trying to end men’s violence against women. We know this is true because as long as we have trained to avoid unaccountable language, we still sometimes make this error, as well. The movement to end domestic violence has not yet made the use of accountable language a priority. We hope this article will encourage all of us in the movement to do so. This is one program we can afford even in tight economic times.

Defining unaccountable language
Unaccountable language refers to the powerful messages embedded in all forms of speech and media that have all of us lapse into sentence structure that obscures perpetrators, minimizes their abuse, and supports blaming victims. One common example is the phrase “an abusive relationship.” The relationship did not hit the woman, but rather it was the abuser, typically a man who is husband or intimate partner, who was abusive. Such statements make the person who committed the offense, invisible. More specifically it is the use of passive language that results in making the perpetrator invisible. For example, a phrase like a woman was raped should be replaced by, “A man raped a woman.” The rape did not just happen, but rather the rapist committed a brutal act. The idea is to focus attention on the person responsible. Accountably speaking we might say a woman was in a relationship with an abuser or he is abusive to his intimate partner. Another example is exposed by the question, “How many women will be raped or assaulted in this year?” Do we ever hear, “How many men will rape or assault this year?”

Other examples of the language of accountability
Once, when discussing accountable language during a staff training, we looked up on the wall to see a bumper sticker that said, “Every 15 seconds a woman is assaulted.” Our objection at the time was not with the accuracy of the information but that the statement failed to focus on the cause of these assaults. “Every 15 seconds a man assaults a woman!” would be an accountable description.

During a dinner conversation, Barry, and his partner, Sharon, were discussing a series of disastrous calamities in their home caused by the builder who seemed to have deliberately sabotaged their house. After hearing about one emergency repair after another, Phyllis said it was the first time she actually understood the true meaning of an “abusive home“, since too often the phrase “abusive home” is misused to invisiblize a man who repeatedly abuses his partner in their home.

The police and media often refer to incidents in which a man brutalizes his wife or girl friend as a “domestic dispute.” This describes a man’s criminal assault as if it were some kind of mutual problem, even-sided engagement, or tame dispute, rather than an act of brutality. When a mugger assaults and robs a cab driver, it is not described as a “fare dispute.”

Unaccountable language hides responsibility
The use of accountable language is not a technicality or merely a play on words, but rather an issue with profound social consequences. The systemic use of unaccountable language minimizes men’s abuse of women, fails to take his abuse seriously, and hides his responsibility for his actions. If we say “a woman was hurt” it seems like it just happened, as if on its own accord, or by accident, and there is nothing to be done about it. If instead we refer to the man who is hurting the woman, this requires assigning responsibility and taking action to stop him from hurting her again and provide consequences for the harm he caused.

Domestic violence is comprised of a wide range of tactics used by men to maintain power and to control their intimate partners The tactics are part of a pattern of coercive actions designed to maintain, what he believes (consciously or not), are his male privileges, to control his significant other. Historically, men were assigned, by social and legal norms, control over wives and families. Today, even though that is no longer legally, and for so many, morally, the case, an “abusive relationship” or “domestic dispute” makes it seem like a communications or relationship problem between the parties. It suggests counseling or therapy as a remedy instead of consequences to hold abusers accountable for abusive, controlling, and/or violent tactics.

Social Consequences of unaccountable language
As a society our constant use of unaccountable language gives still another advantage to abusers. Unaccountable language, embedded in all dominant institutions, including the judicial system, leads police, prosecutors, defense attorneys, and judges in domestic violence custody cases to confidently assume that both parties share equal blame for not getting along. They often tell the parties they are equally responsible for the problems in the relationship and they must start to cooperate, get therapy, or anger management classes. When a mother attempts to protect her children or limit contact with an abusive father, she is routinely blamed for not getting along rather than recognized for what is a normal reaction to a partner’s abuse.

If we are going to end or at least reduce the use of unaccountable language in this society, those of us working in the battered women’s movement must take the lead and must set an example to use accountable language. Politicians often use phrases like “mistakes were made” Instead of saying, “I made a mistake.” We want society to be clear that men ,who abuse and mistreat the women they are partnered with, are responsible for their actions. We are asking presenters and others working to end domestic violence to join us in striving to use accountable language.


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Hijacked by the Right: Battered women in American’s culture war

The vehicle through which the community-based battered women’s movement could be completely co-opted.

Hijacked by the Right is a resource for those who are or may be affected by the Family Justice Center juggernaut: survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault; advocates working in domestic violence agencies, shelters, and rape crisis centers; mainstream social service providers; churches and faith-based organizations; businesses; and concerned citizens.

Author’s note:

The struggle for the heart of the domestic violence movement is a struggle over worldview and philosophy: whose worldview and whose philosophy will determine the perspective from which services will be provided. In Hijacked by the Right, I propose that domestic violence has become the new front of the Religious Right’s war on women. On one side is the 40-year-old Battered Women’s Movement, a community-based social justice model. On the other is the 10-year-old Family Justice Center movement, a socially and politically conservative systems-based model. Is the Family Justice Center (FJC) model — which co-locates police, prosecutors, domestic violence advocates, chaplains, child protective services, job training programs, and other community services in the same location — an evolution of the Battered Women’s Movement or its hijacking? What could possibly go wrong when law enforcement enters into partnership with the other institutional powers: government, corporations, religion, family? Consider this:

Law Enforcement: Victims tell advocates that they don’t go to the police because they fear the police and are terrified of becoming trapped withn the the criminal justice system juggernaut. Advocates fear that if they alienate the police or prosecutors, battered women will ultimately suffer the backlash.

Government: George W. Bush established the Office of Faith-Based and Community Initiatives to “save a family in jeopardy—one soul, one heart at a time.” The subsequent Family Justice Center Initiative was to provide “comprehensive services at one location, including medical care, counseling, law enforcement assistance, social services, employment assistance, housing assistance, and faith-based counseling programs.” Community-based feminist advocates are forced to collaborate with the very systems they historically monitored and held accountable.

Corporations: Privatization redirects funds from existing community-based domestic violence agencies and shelters to investor-operated businesses, opening a huge market for corporations to provide survivor counseling, risk assessment, security services, law enforcement, correctional facilities, batterers’ counseling, spiritual counseling, crisis pregnancy counseling, addictions programs, job training, housing, child care, parenting classes, budgeting… the list is virtually endless.

Religion: Most if not all FJCs engage faith-based organizations to provide services. Including faith-based providers appears to be good, but many (if not most) of them are conservative Christian organizations. Conservative Christian ideology sees men as “servant leaders” with a sacred obligation to lead their wives and children, sometimes with force. These ‘benevolent batterers’ exercise power and control over their families verbally, emotionally, psychologically, sexually, financially, and legally.

Advocacy: The Battered Women’s Movement helped women to see and reveal the abuse they suffered at the hands of men who claimed to love, serve, and protect them. It also exposed the degrading oppression and abuse women received from the institutions they turned to for protection — the police, courts, religious institutions, medical providers, and their own families. The original domestic violence shelters and agencies focused on a woman’s autonomy and choice: “what does she want us to do and how can we best serve her?” The FJC movement has co-opted this focus with institutional collaboration, protocols, and financial incentives.


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