‘Big Little Lies’ Shows That Domestic Abuse Doesn’t Always Look Like You’d Expect

A quick look at any synopsis of Big Little Lies will quickly give you the basic details on each main character — and one important thing to know about Celeste (Nicole Kidman) is that her husband abuses her in the privacy of their own home. Meanwhile, she’s the envy of everyone in Monterey thanks to her lavish mansion, effortless beauty, and the husband who’s oh-so charming in the presence of others. Big Little Lies’ depiction of domestic violence is important for a number of reasons — first and foremost, the issue doesn’t receive nearly enough representation onscreen and everyone’s latest TV obsession has now become a conversation starter. But I also give Big Little Lies major credit for showing that domestic abuse doesn’t always look or sound exactly as we might imagine it would.

The phrase “abused wife” tends to conjure up an image of a woman who cowers in fear and remains completely motionless when her husband hurts her. It’s easy (and understandable) to assume that a domestic violence victim would never dream of saying something like, “are you going to hit me again?” as Celeste does during a tense moment with Perry in the March 12 episode “Push Comes to Shove.” Those types of abuse victims absolutely exist, but so do women like Celeste — and by showing a character who sometimes hits her husband back and deliberately provokes him, viewers are challenged to look at our own preconceived notions about domestic abuse. Read the complete post.

New Hotline Available for Native American Survivors of Domestic and Dating Violence

A hotline is now available to specifically help Native American survivors of domestic and dating violence.

StrongHearts Native Helpline‘s initial service area is Oklahoma, Kansas and Nebraska.

“One of the problems in Indian Country is there’s a huge lack of services, and there really hasn’t been any efforts to create a database that pulls together all of the resources that are available,” said StrongHearts Assistant Director Lori Jump.

Jump said violence against women is an epidemic in Indian Country.

“Native American women are two times as likely as any other race to experience rape or sexual assault, two and a half times more likely to experience violent crime and five times more likely to be the victim of homicide,” Jump said. “So, we have an incredible need for services in our communities.”

The helpline will connect callers with confidential, culturally appropriate support services. Some of those services are meant to help sort out complicated matters of jurisdiction.

“The ability of Native governments to prosecute is pretty restricted in terms of who they can prosecute, especially when it comes to non-Native perpetrators,” Jump said.

The helpline is available at 1-844-7NATIVE Monday through Friday, 9 a.m. to 5:30 p.m. Callers outside those hours can connect with the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

StrongHearts is offered by The National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center and the National Domestic Violence Hotline. It receives some funding from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.

 

 

It is a shame and not just in Russia

Many U. S. news outlets are covering the story of Russia decriminalizing some domestic violence cases. Perhaps they should look at the uneven enforcement of laws against domestic violence in the. U. S. which has essentially the same outcome: battered women cannot rely on law enforcement for protection.

And if programs such as those administered by the Office on Violence Against Women are eliminated, there will be fewer programs helping victims access legal and other remedies needed to escape violence when they do call for help.

Final report: It’s On Us Summit and Report of the White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault

The White House
Office of the Press Secretary
January 05, 2017
FACT SHEET: Final It’s On Us Summit and Report of the White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault

Since the beginning of this Administration, the President and Vice President have made it a priority to root out sexual misconduct wherever it exists, especially on our nation’s college campuses. Students have played a significant role in carrying out the Administration’s vision for having educational institutions that are free from violence. Around the country, college women and men are taking active roles in ensuring that their schools have robust and comprehensive plans to better understand and prevent sexual misconduct.

Today, the White House is proud to host its final event focused on stopping sexual violence against students, the It’s On Us Summit. The Summit will bring together student leaders, campus, community, business and media partners, and federal colleagues. Attendees have gathered from across the country to hear from members of the Administration and outside stakeholders about the work that is being done to address campus sexual assault and to engage in a dialogue about the future of this work, both on college campuses and in communities across the country.

The White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault Presents its Final Report

In April 2011, Vice President Biden and the Secretary of Education, Arne Duncan, introduced comprehensive guidance to help colleges and universities better understand their obligations under federal civil rights laws to prevent and respond to sexual assault on campus. Building on those efforts, in January 2014, the President and Vice President established the White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault (Task Force). The Task Force, co-chaired by the Office of the Vice President and the White House Council on Women and Girls, has since worked diligently to assist schools in addressing campus sexual assault.

In collaboration with Federal partners, the Task Force has produced a number of practical tools that are readily available to students, administrators, faculty, campus police, health care professionals, and others who play key roles in these efforts. Today, the White House will release The Second Report of the White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault. This second and final report builds on the recommendations and lessons learned from the first report of the Task Force, Not Alone, released in 2014, and documents the advances that have been made throughout this Administration to address sexual misconduct in higher education. It also highlights some of the innovative and forward thinking initiatives that have been undertaken by campuses around the Nation.

In conjunction with the report, today the White House will also release Preventing and Addressing Campus Sexual Misconduct: A Guide for University and College Presidents, Chancellors, and Senior Administrators (Guide). The Guide serves as a foundation for campus leadership to develop, or further hone, comprehensive responses to sexual misconduct at their institutions. Through its final report and the Guide, the Task Force underscores the importance of university leadership sending a strong public message of support for these responses – and the faculty, staff, and students who help develop them – and championing a culture shift that promotes safe campuses that are free from sexual misconduct.

For a full list of products, tools, and research findings on campus sexual assault produced during the Obama Administration, click here.

It’s On Us

After scores of listening sessions with students across the country, the President and Vice President launched It’s On Us in September of 2014.

It’s On Us is a movement aimed at fundamentally shifting the culture around sexual assault. It’s a rallying cry, inviting everyone to step up and realize that the solution begins with all of us. The campaign works to educate, engage, and empower students and communities across the country to do something, big or small, to end sexual assault. The campaign has three core pillars – consent education, increasing bystander intervention, and creating an environment that supports survivors. Over the past two years, almost 400,000 people have taken the It’s On Us pledge online and students have hosted almost 2,000 events on over 500 college campuses nationwide. The campaign has 95 partners, including MTV, Snapchat, and Major League Baseball.

The Vice President has traveled to numerous college campuses to talk with students about the responsibility we all share to step in and prevent sexual assault when we see it happening. As a lifelong champion for ending violence against women, he has shared this message of engagement and support for survivors with diverse audiences, including at the Academy Awards in Los Angeles in March 2016, and the NCAA Final Four Tournament in Houston in March 2016.

This year, It’s On Us launched several new programs including a nationwide Student Engagement Program structured into eight Regional Teams of student leaders. This spring, each Team will host a Regional Summit to build upon the work of the campaign over the past two years. These Regional Summits will bring together students, advocates, community leaders, and campus administrators on the local level to focus on coordinated prevention strategies and messaging. Through this series of local summits, It’s On Us will train and educate over 800 leaders on consent, bystander intervention, and creating an environment that supports survivors.

Additionally, It’s On Us recently launched two new programs: a Greek Leadership Council comprised of fraternity and sorority leadership, and a Campus Innovation Program to partner directly with college and university administrators. Over the next year, It’s On Us will continue to grow these programs, as well as launch new initiatives and critical partnerships focused on engaging the athletic and entertainment communities.

Because of the dedicated student advocates and the leadership of our partners, we are confident that the work to prevent and respond to sexual assault on campuses and in communities across the country will continue. Join our effort by taking the pledge at ItsOnUs.org.

If you or someone you know is in need of support, you can call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673.

Message from NCADV: The work goes on – we are not changing

Message from NCADV

Every four years, we as a nation are faced with change. At NCADV, we work to ensure that no matter who sits in the Oval Office, we never change our mission. We continue to work toward a society that has no tolerance for domestic violence. We give the same energy and passion to the voices and concerns of victims and survivors and the intersecting issues, no matter who the President-elect.

As we grasp what has occurred this week, we want to let you know: we are not changing. Our work remains the same. We will continue to work on your behalf and remain steadfast in our mission.

Our President-elect will receive the same message from us, and we will hold him and others accountable to ensuring the rights of women, girls, and those impacted by domestic violence are never compromised. We will continue to work on policy and strategies that support and address the needs of those we work for and serve as their voice. If our President-elect is serious about making change, he will vigorously address these issues. We will hold him accountable on any policy and action that puts victims and survivors at further risk, including policies that allow for hate, abuse, or violence.

Always take care of yourselves. We developed a list of self care tips for you to serve as a guide. Please take care of others. Reach out to those you hold dear.

Like you, I am determined to continue to make change. We will continue to work with our sister organizations and allies. We are still strong. We still have power, and we will not be swayed by anything other than what is right.

Remember these words from Audre Lourde: “When we speak we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed. But when we are silent, we are still afraid. So it is better to speak.” We will continue to speak.

What Can You Do Today?
— Encourage self-care in your life and encourage others to do the same
— Volunteer with your nearest domestic violence program or shelter or contribute to your favorite national or local non-profit that is committed to change
— Sign up for public policy action alert emails from the NCADV

Be Well,

Ruth M. Glenn, NCADV Executive Director

S.H.A.R.E., Inc. Receives Grant for General Operating

Fort Morgan, Colorado – S.H.A.R.E., Inc. announced October 12 that it has received a $25,000 Daniels Fund grant to support its domestic violence services in Morgan County. S.H.A.R.E., Inc., the Morgan County domestic violence agency, provides 24 hour crisis intervention, emergency shelter, food, transportation, and individual and group advocacy to victims of domestic violence and their children in our area.

In addition to the above services, they assist victims with safety planning, protection orders, victim compensation applications, and parenting plans, as well as courtroom accompaniment upon request.

“This grant will enable our program to continue vital emergency services, and will enhance our outreach efforts to provide advocacy and education to families who are experiencing violence in their homes,” said Jan Schiller, Executive Director.

The Daniels Fund, established by cable television pioneer Bill Daniels, is a private charitable foundation dedicated to making life better for the people of Colorado, New Mexico, Utah, and Wyoming through its grants program, scholarship program, and ethics initiative. Visit DanielsFund.org to learn more.
For more information about S.H.A.R.E., Inc., please call (970) 867-4444 or visit www.sharemorgancounty.org.