Intimate Partner Violence in LGBTQ Relationships – Information and Resources
For more information call S.H.A.R.E., Inc. (970) 867-4444 24-hour crisis line and office.
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Empower yourself with information
You are not alone.
Others have gone through the pain of being in an abusive relationship and are willing to reach out to help you. The more you educate yourself about domestic violence, the better you are able to make informed choices about your situation.
Domestic Violence and Intimate Partner Violence
Domestic violence is defined as an act or threatened act of violence against a person with whom you are involved in an intimate relationship. It is a pattern of coercive control, punishment, intimidation, or revenge. It can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological actions or threats, including behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone. It can happen to anyone regardless of race, age, or gender-identity and it affects people of all socio-economic backgrounds and education levels. It can happen to intimate partners who are married, living together or dating. Another term for domestic violence is “intimate partner violence” (IPV). It means physical, sexual, or psychological harm by a current or former partner or spouse.
Abuse is one person using power and control OVER another. Both partners cannot have that kind of control. The abused partner may fight back, but there is a difference between abuse and self-defense.
Abuse is not about both partners just “fighting it out” all the time. Abuse can happen regardless of the length of relationship or living situation.
Tactics used to gain power and control may be physical, sexual, and emotional abuse, financial control, isolation, etc. Victims of IPV may experience stress including physical and/or emotional pain, changes in sleeping or eating patterns, difficulty with memory, concentration, or problem-solving. Victims may feel depressed, anxious, lonely, overwhelmed, or exhausted.
LGBTQ victims of IPV may face
- Threats of being outed.
- Pressure to be out or for being “too” out.
- Isolation from family, friends, community.
- Emotional abuse.
- Name calling, slurs, shaming.
- Fewer legal and other service protections.
- Lack of visibility of LGBTQ individuals may equal fewer models for healthy relationships.
- People in a survivor’s life may not recognize that she/he is in a relationship, much less that the abuse is happening.
- Lack of screening to determine who is the abuser.
We Provide – Telephone 970-867-4444
- 24-hour crisis response
- Emergency shelter
- Individual advocacy
- Group support
- Court advocacy
- Help with protective orders and victim compensation claims
- Safety plans
- Children’s programs
- Supervised visitation and safe exchanges