Monthly Archives: February 2014

S.H.A.R.E., Inc. Teen Dating Violence Prevention Program

February is National Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month.

As part of our domestic violence prevention activities, S.H.A.R.E., Inc. provides Teen Dating Violence Prevention presentations for middle- and high school students, educators, and parents. Our presentations or classes are tailored to the school and student needs, for example, we offer several sessions using the evidence-based curriculum Safe Dates, a one-hour presentation before student body assemblies, and Healthy Relationships films and questionnaires for college students. We also provide short educational presentations for community groups.

Call us at 867-4444 to arrange presentations.

What is Teen Dating Violence?

Teen dating violence is a pattern of abusive behavior used to exert power and control over a dating partner. Violent words and actions are tools an abusive partner uses to gain and maintain power and control over his partner.

Any teen or young adult can experience violence, abuse or unhealthy behaviors in their dating relationships, which may be serious or casual, monogamous or not, short-term or long-term.

Teens and young adults experience the same types of abuse in relationships as adults. This can include:

– Intentional use of physical force with the intent to cause fear or injury, like hitting, shoving, kicking, strangling, or using a weapon.

– Threats, insults, constant monitoring, humiliation, intimidation, isolation, or stalking.

– Use of cell phones or social media to intimidate, harass or threaten a current or ex-dating partner, which might include demanding passwords, checking cell phones, cyber bullying, threatening or excessive texting, sexting, or stalking online.

Some facts about Teen Dating Violence

– Dating violence happens to young people in teen dating relationships as often as it does in adult relationships.

– 12.2% of high school girls between 14 and 18 years old reported that they had been hit, slapped, or physically hurt on purpose by a dating partner.

– 40% of girls age 14 to 17 report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend.

– About 80% of girls who have been physically abused in their dating relationships continue to date their abuser after violence has begun.

– Nearly all female rape victims know their attacker. 56% of teenage girls who are raped are raped by a date.

Talking to teens about healthy relationships

We encourage parents and educators to talk to teens about healthy relationships based on equality and respect, and to discuss what is not healthy or loving in a relationship. Relationships that are not healthy are based on power and control. Possessiveness, insults, jealous accusations, yelling, humiliation, and other abusive behaviors are attempts to have power and control.

Call us for help or more information

S.H.A.R.E., Inc. provides safety plans as well as emergency crisis intervention for persons who are in an abusive relationship. We can also provide more information on how to talk about Teen Dating Violence with a friend, loved one, or child.


Presidential Proclamation: Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month

By the President of the United States of America

A Proclamation

Each year, 1 in 10 American teenagers suffers physical violence at the hands of a boyfriend or girlfriend, and many others are sexually or emotionally abused. Dating violence can inflict long‑lasting pain, putting survivors at increased risk of substance abuse, depression, poor academic performance, and experiencing further violence from a partner. During National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month, we renew our commitment to preventing abuse, supporting survivors, holding offenders accountable, and building a culture of respect.

Although girls and young women ages 16 to 24 are at the highest risk, dating violence can affect anyone. That is why everyone must learn the risk factors and warning signs. While healthy relationships are built on fairness, equality, and respect, dating violence often involves a pattern of destructive behaviors used to exert power and control over a partner. It can include constantly monitoring, isolating, or insulting a partner; extreme jealousy, insecurity, or possessiveness; or any type of physical violence or unwanted sexual contact. If you, a friend, or a loved one, is in an abusive relationship, the National Dating Abuse Helpline will offer immediate and confidential support. To contact the Helpline, call 1‑866‑331‑9474, text “loveis” to 22522, or visit For more information on dating violence, please visit

My Administration remains dedicated to preventing dating violence, raising awareness among teens and their families, and educating young people about healthy relationships. Earlier this year, I established the White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault. In addition to its primary focus of reducing sexual assault on college campuses, the task force will consider how its recommendations could apply to secondary schools. Because we must also reach out to teens in new ways, Vice President Joe Biden’s 1 is 2 Many initiative is engaging them online, via mobile applications, and in social media. Alongside schools, communities, and advocacy groups, we are working to change attitudes and help teens speak out against dating violence.

Each of us can play a role in ending dating violence ‑‑ in our schools, our homes, our neighborhoods, and our dormitories. This month and throughout the year, let every American look out for one another, stand with survivors, speak out against dating violence, and build communities where abuse is never tolerated.

NOW, THEREFORE, I, BARACK OBAMA, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and the laws of the United States, do hereby proclaim February 2014 as National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month. I call upon all Americans to support efforts in their communities and schools, and in their own families, to empower young people to develop healthy relationships throughout their lives and to engage in activities that prevent and respond to teen dating violence.

IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this thirty-first day of January, in the year of our Lord two thousand fourteen, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and thirty-eighth.