National Domestic Violence Hotline has a post by Leslie Morgan Stiener, author of the book Crazy Love, a memoir about domestic abuse.
For a long time after I left Conor, I struggled with how I fit our society’s stereotype of an abused woman. Exactly why and how had I lost myself to a man who I was intelligent enough to see was destroying me? I kept silent during cocktail party debates about why women stayed in violent relationships. I walked away after the inevitable pronouncement that women who let themselves be abused are weak, uneducated, self-destructive, powerless. I fit none of these stereotypes. I never met a battered woman who did.
We survivors may have a lot in common, but none of us is a stereotype.